“I didn’t choose this, my dad did. My husband made the decision. I’m a victim of circumstances.” But are you truly a victim, or are you also responsible?!
I am a Victim
One of the games many people play in life is the victim role. What does that mean?
When a person makes a choice and their decision turns out to be right, they’re happy and say, “This was my choice.” But what if they choose and their decision turns out wrong? Here, they will still be responsible, and people will blame them, or they will be afraid of criticism. So, they come and play a very clever game:
The Victim Game
How do they play it? They come and say, “I won’t choose. My dad will choose. My husband will make the decision. And I’ll listen to them and follow them.” This way, if the decision turns out wrong, they won’t bear the responsibility and can say, “I’m a victim. My dad decided. My husband chose.”
But here, you are also responsible, not a victim. How?!
Because you chose to be passive. You chose to follow them. You chose not to choose.
So when you follow them and say they chose, the response will be, “And why did you agree? Why didn’t you refuse?”
Therefore, you are still responsible here.
People are afraid of making mistakes, even though every human makes mistakes. Make mistakes and learn from your mistakes. And take responsibility for your decisions.
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