When my husband comes home, he doesn’t want to hear any noise. If one of the kids makes any sound, he starts yelling and arguing. How should I deal with him?
Many wives complain about their husband’s irritability, especially after he returns from work.
The mother, may God help her, spends the whole day with the kids. The eldest calls, “Mom, where are my shoes?” The younger one yells, “Mom, I want to go to the bathroom!” And if there’s a third younger child, she feels like she’s trapped. On top of all that, there’s housework and cooking.
The husband spends the whole day outside in the sun and heat. His job requires effort and focus, plus the stress of traffic and commuting.
The mother is waiting for her husband to come home so she can share how stressful the kids have been driving her crazy.
The husband is eagerly waiting to get home and rest after a long day in the sun and exhaustion.
All he really needs is rest and relaxation after a long day, and the mother needs the same.
This creates a situation where both husband and wife are stressed and need rest.
When the wife asks her husband to help with the kids a little or at least listen to her complaints, the stressed husband may explode and get angry.
What’s the solution?
Let your husband rest when he gets home. Let him eat, sleep, and relax. Then, at the end of the day, talk to him — he will listen to you.
And you, as a mother, how do you relieve your own stress?
You also need to take a little break from the kids. When you feel overwhelmed, put down whatever you’re doing and take a half-hour rest.
You might say, “But what about the kids?”
We will train the kids that mom is taking a half-hour nap and no one should disturb her. If anyone knocks or talks, don’t respond, since you are “sleeping.”
Over time, the kids will learn to respect your privacy, and any requests they have can be delayed.
After that half-hour, return to your normal life with better energy, and you will feel you deserve this rest and separation.
This will help reduce your stress a bit.
